What I Said & What He Heard

Who hasn’t experienced being misunderstood resulting in a heated argument. What I said is contingent on how he or she heard it—completely, unequivocally. This is Part II of my commentary about communication in Relationship.

What I Said & What He Heard

I have had the honor of coaching married clients through hard break-ups and sometimes reconciliation. Almost everything in the process is about what is heard, as opposed to what is actually said. Honestly, most people do not mean to piss off their partners daily. They seriously are trapped, though, with unhealthy communication skills. What if we could change relationship by adding a few simple steps? Would you do them? 

WORKING ON SELF

Working on Self—the main aggregating force behind proper communication in relationship is to remember: 

What You Say Expresses What’s In Your Heart!

So, if you spend your day bitching and griping, your heart must be extremely tied to the idea that your life and your situation is frustrating and not worth working through. I say this with a lot of love. What we do and say shows much more of what is in our hearts than you’d imagine. Therefore, with all of your mind and heart, observer yourself today, just 24 hours. Don’t judge. Just listen and watch, as if you were watching someone else. 

Are you truly listening to your partner? Remember that he or she may also be speaking words that are a sum total of the frustration in the brain. (I’ll differentiate that the mind is the place where we are in Union with Spirit. The brain, however, is the place where we store data and deduct with that data.) So, this means that the brain can be changed much more easily than the mind, just as you would change the desktop of a computer. Clean and Clear up what clutters the desktop (your brain) so that you can see what truly serves your life right now.

If there are situations, unresolved arguments, looping hard discussions that still remain up front and present, then begin to drag those unresolved issues to the trash. We can always start a fresh conversation whenever you begin to shift your focus to what’s important. Your affirmation is:

I release and let go of all things that no longer serve my relationship.

After the 24 hours of observing, use a journal to see how much of your day was spent arguing, ranting, and otherwise disregarding “working on” the hardest issues in your relationship. These are the things we want to get rid of so that we’re ready for our lesson tomorrow. 

I’ll continue with this in my next blog… Sign up for the blog on my website or in WordPress. 

Much peace, 

Bo

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DON’T FORGET ABOUT PEACE OF MIND

We give away our peace of mind every time we react emotionally to inevitable change. Peace is yours to keep, not give away. So, if you are not experiencing peace, it’s up to you to share why you are anxious with yourself by carrying on a self dialogue. Yes, that’s right. Question yourself. Work it out together with all the parts of your mind (the good, bad, and the ugly). These are the times when we will be closest to our loved ones and also have a great deal of alone time. Use it to your spiritual and physical advantage.

Some friendly reminders about Peace:

• You are made in the image and by the grace of Peace. 
• Peace doesn’t comprehend pandemonium. 
• Peace of mind is gentle.
• Peace does not judge you or others.
• Peace promotes calm and love.

Peace Helps You Keep Your Retrospect in Check

Psychology Today says that “it’s not bad to have negative thoughts …

We just have to stop believing them!” (Change your unhealthy thought process to a positive connection with Hypnotherapy.)

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