Plenty of Fish
Most people’s advice to newly single people is: There are plenty of fish in the sea. But, are there many available aquatic species in any body of water? ocean, rivers, lakes, ponds that you could choose from?
I’m thinking yes. The trick is how to find them.
Plenty of Fish
I find that almost every day, I have a client who is recently divorced, trying to get over an ex-partner, and majorly depressed because of the lack of fish in the aquarium (metaphorically, their sea is much smaller than expected). I usually ask each person how they are looking for a mate. Many varying answers come back. However, the majority look for dates on Apps like “Plenty of Fish” or “Match” or “Bumble.”
I ask the big question: Can I see your profile?
I have been astounded at what I see:
- Pictures that don’t look much like them or do not reflect their personalities;
- With men, I see a lack of effort on the bio part.
- With woman, an over-effort on the bio and way too sexy pictures.
Having found my husband on the Internet, here’s what you have to do, my friends:
Get a good friend to take a few very natural pictures of you. (Dudes, comb your hair and make a small effort. I’m reminded of the time I went out on a date with a guy who didn’t clean out the passenger side of his car for me until I was about to sit down on McDonald’s leftovers and trash from ages ago. Yikes!)
Make sure that the friend you choose to take the pictures is of the ilk and the gender from which you are looking. I don’t want your sloppy best buddy who has been mooching off of you to take your pictures. I want someone of the right sex (the one you’re interested in dating) to take the pictures. Make sure that person is honest and will do you justice.
Then, let that same person read your bio. Don’t be afraid. Someone is going to be reading it soon or has been reading it any way. So, let a friend help. If you need an editor to help you, by all means do so. Don’t go on an Internet dating site and have blatantly misspelled words and bad grammar. Also, try to keep your bio positive. Don’t tell me what you don’t like. Tell me what makes your heart smile and dance.
My Experience with Plenty of Fish
Recently, I had a client who came to me for just this reason—he was frustrated be he couldn’t find a date worth getting excited about. “I’m a great guy!” he exclaimed. “Help me figure out what I’m doing wrong!” He thought he needed to be hypnotized to find his match. Perhaps that was true.
What he needed was a self-image boost, for sure. Also, he needed a reality check. He wasn’t the most handsome fish in the sea. But he was nice and did a good job of being the best looking person he could be.
More than anything, this man needed a bio-overall! When I helped him change his bio, even taking his photos, he went from “not so many cuties answering his likes” to “plenty of chick-filets in the ocean.”
He even stopped coming to his sessions, one week after I changed his bio. His text to me: “Well, we accomplished what I came there for. Thanks a million.”
I did write a bestseller that was about this very subject. So, even though I’m a hypnotherapist, I do well with helping couples and newly single people to find a mate. (You can find the book on a page of my website.)
Here’s the thing: Everyone who is looking for a mate should do a few things that most people forget to do:
- Make sure that you work on the very things in yourself that you want in another person;
- Make certain that you don’t try to fix anyone into being the right person;
- Stop looking for the parent you loved the least;
- Love yourself enough to read every one of your responses and the bios of those interested in you. People’s bios, even the ones who don’t take time to write one, always tell a story; and
- Don’t accept the rejects!
The purpose of this blog is to realize that the stories in the brain are impulses from Spirit to help us heal, if we are willing to take the time to understand our own pain. Most of us want to avoid it. But, if you are tired of reliving your stories over and over again, try learning to become the observer of your mind. Restore and Renew Your Mind. Change from Plenty of Fish.
GIVE IT A TRY.
With 31 years of experience and a new, great office in beautiful Fort Lauderdale, Hypnosis on Las Olas creates a clear path to health and prosperity for many people in South Florida. I will help put you on the road to peace of mind and keep you there, so that you may rewrite your prosperous story daily and learn the True Meaning of Healing: “Your New Story, Your New Life.”
When Healing Flows like Living Water through your being, you’ll notice you feel led and connected, sleep better, your mind stays affixed on positive things, and you’ll even want to cook better, healthier food to protect your body. Are you looking for help with anxiety or are you bored at home.
Try this yoga practice below on YouTube I made just for this purpose or give me a call for a 10 minute consultation. I’d love to work through your stress at this time with you.
The process is so simple, it doesn’t make sense that it could result in such a vast change in mind. You could do some seated yoga. I actually made 3 different yoga videos on YouTube you could go to now and enjoy how great you’ll feel if you spend just a little time getting your body free of stress. But, I can’t do it for you. This article about it can make you do it. You must be a self-started at home, as well as work. Set your mind to a clear schedule of things to do. This would be a brilliant time to learn a new language or clean out the closets.
DON’T FORGET ABOUT PEACE OF MIND
We give away our peace of mind every time we react emotionally to inevitable change. Peace is yours to keep, not give away. So, if you are not experiencing peace, it’s up to you to share why you are anxious with yourself by carrying on a self dialogue. Yes, that’s right. Question yourself. Work it out together with all the parts of your mind (the good, bad, and the ugly). These are the times when we will be closest to our loved ones and also have a great deal of alone time. Use it to your spiritual and physical advantage.
Some friendly reminders about Peace:
- You are made in the image and by the grace of Peace.
- Peace doesn’t comprehend pandemonium.
- Peace of mind is gentle.
- Peace does not judge you or others.
- Peace promotes calm and love.
Peace Helps You Keep Your Retrospect in Check
Psychology Today says that “it’s not bad to have negative thoughts …
We just have to stop believing them!” (Change your unhealthy thought process to a positive connection with Hypnotherapy.) Don’t avoid the Ripple!
You will always find all the coaching, compassion, and peace of mind you need at Hypnosis on Las Olas with 31 years of experience. You can find what we do? and How we do it here… Getting Older with GraceExperiencing Narcissistic AbuseIronically, despite the popularity of the word, most people have never heard of the phrase “narcissistic abuse.”
Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse. It is primarily inflicted by individuals who have either narcissistic personality disorder (NPD, which is characterized by a lack of empathy), or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD, also known as sociopaths or psychopaths), and is associated with the absence of a conscience. More than enough fish in the sea.
The Physiology of Hypnotherapy:
By going into a subconscious, light sleep or trance, a hypnotists helps find the pathways connecting your outside stimulus to your negative thoughts (food, smoking, anxiety). The work begins in the frontal cortex of your brain!
Disconnect the root cause (stress, relationship problems, no quality ME time) at the foot of the pathway (the place where our response to triggers happens) and build a healthy, new pathway to positive outcomes in your life—a new story for tomorrow.
Email me at [email protected] or call/text at: 954-253-6493 now!
I’d love to help you find peace, regain control over your life, and build a bridge to a positive future.
How 5 Simple Words Can Change Your Life, by Bo Sebastian, Hypnosis on Las Olas, owner for 32 years.
Clinical Hypnosis has been known to help these 145 problems:
145 Ways Hypnotherapy Might Help You…
- Age Regression
- Assist Healing
- Attitude Adjustment
- Career Success
- Change Habits
- Panic Attacks
- Stage Fright
- Stressful days
- Study Habits
- Weight Loss
- Writers Block and much more
- For the full list go to: here