Cadence of Intimate Conversations
Cadence of Intimate Conversations

Cadence of Intimate Conversations

I have often spoken of intimate conversations as the cadence of relationship. In this discourse, I will discuss moving from a narcissistic-type conversation to really listening. 

Cadence of Intimate Conversations

While working with a covert narcissist, I found that he barely listened to me, even though he was paying me $150 an hour to be heard. When I told him so, he shared that his wife also said the same thing about his inability to converse. He asked me to help him. Here’s my story:
My Story about Cadence of Intimate Conversations


The basis of a great relationship is intimate conversation wherein both partners listen and share equally and with utter abandon.


Last year, I had a client who was a self-proclaimed narcissist. His dad and mom were diagnosed narcissists. His initial phone call to me was about the likelihood of a narcissist—him—being able to change.  Everyone in his life were abandoning him.  


Knowing what I know about therapy and narcissism, I was quite uninterested; however, I got a nudge from the Holy Spirit to take this strapping, ex-cop at his word. 


In the months after his first call, he went from losing his family and wife to regaining the love of his wife and family. I tell you this story, because one of the lessons we constantly worked on in his sessions was a. technique I developed called, “The Cadence of Intimate Conversation.” 


Narcissists tend to take over conversations and never know how to give their listener (it doesn’t matter to whom he or she is speaking) a chance to interject anything. In fact, narcissists tend to go from topic to topic without even a breath. Usually, they keep you holding on when they can’t think of something new  to  say. “Well, you know” or “maybe” or “I’d like to see if…” until they are safe to proceed uninterruped.  


Teaching someone to learn to listen and have an interest in communicating,  instead of pretending  to listen while  trying to think of the next thing to say, was completely  new to me.  However,  if  you ask this man  now,  he would say  this  was one of the most difficult things he had ever learned in his life, but it drastically changed  the  dynamics of every  relationship. Why? Because learning  to listen takes becoming vulnerable to someone else’s opinion. Your partner will share and you will  share things you never told anyone else.  In so doing, you’ll become  closer than  you had  ever imagined.


Caroline Myss says “Of the many needs we have as human beings, the one that brings us the most inner tranquility is sharing who we are, how we feel, what we are thinking, and what we are discovering about ourselves. We all need a sacred Witness in life, a person who can listen without judgment while knowing the right questions to ask that continually illuminate our path. 


“We need this quality of deep sharing with another person because through such dialogue, we witness our own maturity through the years, we grapple with our own wounds, we cleanse ourselves of wrong-doings, we dig more carefully into the hidden resources in our nature, we muse over feelings that take us by surprise, we walk with a companion through labyrinths of dark confusion, we confront great questions about the meaning and purpose of our life and we examine what it is we believe to be true about the Sacred.”


I  grew up a co-narcissist, which  means  I allowed someone  to be a narcissist—my dad.  Co-narcissists learn the behavior of their counterparts, but tend to be more compassionate. This  diagnosis is also likely to be the person who doesn’t realize it, but continuously invites narcissists into their lives as mates and friends, because  it’s familiar. 





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We give away our peace of mind every time we react emotionally to inevitable change. Peace is yours to keep, not give away. So, if you are not experiencing peace, it’s up to you to share why you are anxious with yourself by carrying on a self dialogue. Yes, that’s right. Question yourself. Work it out together with all the parts of your mind (the good, bad, and the ugly). These are the times when we will be closest to our loved ones and also have a great deal of alone time. Use it to your spiritual and physical advantage.

Some friendly reminders about Peace:

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  • Peace doesn’t comprehend pandemonium. 
  • Peace of mind is gentle.
  • Peace does not judge you or others.
  • Peace promotes calm and love.

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Cadence of Intimate Conversations
Cadence of Intimate Conversations

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